News & Updates :: 13 June 2021

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We’re deep into Pride month and the colors are flying! I’m glad to see that there are more colors than there used to be, and many more flags to fly at Pride. Every time I think I have a favorite, I see a new color combination, and that one makes me happy, too. It is so fitting that tomorrow is Flag Day. Let’s celebrate the rich diversity of our communities and show the world how beautiful we are.

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News & Updates :: 30 May 2021

Trinity Sunday
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Hi! I’m Jon Carl, your host.
Welcome back to Sex & the Gay Christian.

Trinity Sunday is the day the Western Church celebrates the fullness of God through the mystery of the Trinity. I won’t even attempt to explain or describe the concept of the Trinity, but I will say one thing about it: it’s all about love, and it’s all about relationships.

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News & Updates :: 23 May 2021

Happy Pentecost!

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Sex & the Gay Christian!

Hi! I’m Jon Carl, your host. A lot has happened since you last heard from me.

As the Holy Spirit births the church on this day, we remember the resurrection of our Lord and Savor Jesus Christ. We think about the new directions our lives are taking as life appears ready to begin again after our perpetual Lent of the past year and a half. This hasn’t been an easy time for anybody. For some of us, it’s been a profound time of suffering. For many of us it’s been a profound time of soul searching and redirection.

Sex & the Gay Christian is no different.

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Finding Our Way Towards a “Centered Set” Sexual Ethics with Wendy VanderWal Gritter

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At the Q Christian Fellowship annual conference in early January 2021 (which was totally online), I attended a breakout session entitled “Finding Our Way: Centered Set Sexual Ethics.” I was excited about the session for two reasons. The entire reason the Sex and the Gay Christian project launched was to help Queer, Christian men (myself included) develop a personal, healthy, sex-positive, sexual ethic centered on Christ. Also, I have found the thoughts of the presenter, Wendy VanderWal-Gritter, on Christian sexual ethics to be not only clear, but liberating and grounding at the same time.

Wendy VanderWal-Gritter
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Queer Ally Colby Martin Catches Fire… in a Good Way

Image from the Instagram page of Colby Martin @colbymartin.

This week, on Tuesday, 13 October 2020, writer, pastor, and Queer ally Colby Martin started a firestorm with a post-National Coming Out Day Instagram post (embedded in full below) which reaffirmed his position that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality. Sure, the trolls came out, but it ended in a well-deserved love fest.

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Introducing Sex and the Gay Christian

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Welcome to
Sex and the Gay Christian!

Thanks for stopping by. We provide resources and spaces to help gay, bi, trans and Queer, Christian men navigate the complexities of being Queer, Christian and sexual in contemporary culture.

In this introduction we would like to explain why we are here, what our approach is, what we offer, and how you can get involved.

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Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts: A Review

I first reviewed Beyond Shame: Creating A Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts, on Goodreads 05 January 2020. As I prepare to reread this book specifically for the Sex and the Gay Christian project, I repost that review in its entirety, below.

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