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A

Terms beginning with A


Abstinence

Abstinence means refraining from any sexual activity or behavior.

Definition of abstinence added 13 Sep 2020.


Abuse

Definition of


Ace

Ace is an abbreviation or nickname for “asexual.” See Asexual.

Definition of ace added 11 Sep 2020.


Acquaintance Rape

Definition of


Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS)

Definition of


Addiction

Definition of


AFAB

AFAB is an acronym for “assigned female at birth.” This is seen by some as a problematic term. See sex assignment.

Definition of AFAB added 07 Oct 2020.


Age of Consent

Definition of


Agender

Definition of


AIDS

AIDS is an acronym for Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome.

Definition of AIDS added 24 Sep 2020.


AIB Model

The AIB Model is a way of understanding sexuality that views sexual orientation as being made up of three components: attraction, identity and sexual behavior.

Definition of the AIB Model added 12 Sep 2020.


Ally

An Ally is a non-LGBTQIA person who advocates for LGBTQIA persons.

Definition of ally added 18 Oct 2020.


AMAB

AMAB is an acronym for “assigned male at birth.” This is seen by some as a problematic term. See sex assignment.

Definition of AMAB added 07 Oct 2020.


Anal Sex

Definition of


Anatomical Sex

Anatomical Sex is used to describe the reproductive organs, genetic and hormonal makeup and secondary sexual characteristics which medical and scientific professionals use to determine whether a person is male, female, intersex or neither (see Sex Assignment).

Definition of Anatomical Sex added 12 Oct 2020. Source: .


Aro

Aro is a nickname for “Aromantic.” See Aromantic.

Definition of Aro added 11 Sep 2020.


Aroace

Aroace is a nickname for “Aromantic and asexual.” See aromantic and asexual.

Definition of Aroace added 11 Sep 2020.


Aromantic

Aromantic is an identity label for a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to other people. This does not preclude a need for or an interest in sexual involvement. Sometimes abbreviated as “Aro.”

Definition of Aromantic added 12 Sep 2020.


Asceticism

Asceticism is a spiritual path characterized by denying oneself certain pleasures in an effort to have a more powerful experience of the divine.

Definition of asceticism added 08 Oct 2020.


Asexual

See Asexuality.

Definition of asexual added 18 Oct 2020.


Asexuality

Asexuality refers to one of four major sexual orientations, used to describe a person who experiences little or no sexual attraction to other people. This does not preclude a need for or an interest in romantic involvement. This does also not preclude sexual behavior. Sometimes abbreviated as “Ace.” See Sexual Orientation: a Closer Look.

Definition of asexuality added 17 Sep 2020.


Asexuality Spectrum

Definition of asexuality spectrum added 17 Sep 2020.


Attraction

Attraction refers to what one feels drawn towards, especially in this case towards a gender, person or sex. It is one of the three components of sexual orientation in the AIB Model.

Definition of attraction added 12 Sep 2020.


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B

Terms beginning with B


Barebacking

Barebacking refers to having sex, especially anal sex, without a condom. This counts as risky sex unless one or both of you is undetectable or on PrEP. Even then, you will still be susceptible to other STIs.

Definition of bareback added 11 Sep 2020.


BDSM

Definition of


Behavior

See Sexual Behavior.

Definition of


Bi

Bi is an abbreviation or nickname for “bisexual.” See Bisexual.

Definition of bi added 11 Sep 2020.


Bi Erasure

Definition of


Bigender

Definition of


Biphobia

Definition of


Bisexuality

Bisexuality refers to one of four major sexual orientations. Although bisexuality has historically referred to being attracted to “both” genders (those being male and female), it is increasingly understood as describing a person who is able to be attracted to and form relationships with more than one gender or persons of no gender. See Sexual Orientation: a Closer Look.

Definition of bisexual added 17 Sep 2020.


Body Awareness

Definition of


Body Positivity

Definition of


Bottom

A bottom is a person who takes on or identifies with the receptive role in (usually anal) intercourse. The term bottom can be used as a verb meaning to assume the role of bottom in a sexual encounter. See also top, side and versatile.

Definition of bottom added 12 Sep 2020.


Boundary

See also rule.

Definition of boundary added .


Brokenness

Brokenness is the state of feeling there is something wrong with oneself in some area of life, particularly in one’s sexuality. We include this term because a well-known journalist once described his sexuality as “broken.” Although he later expressed regret at having used this term, we imagine that many Queer people feel or have been made to feel this way about their sexuality.

Definition of brokenness added 12 Sep 2020.


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C

Terms beginning with C


Casual sex

Definition of


Celibacy

The original meaning of celibacy is a state of being unmarried, although it usually implies a refrain from sexual activity with anyone other than oneself. One can be in a partnership, even a marriage and remain or choose to be celibate.

Definition of celibacy added 11 Sep 2020.


Chastity

Chastity describes the state of being pure, usually sexually. Unlike celibacy, it has been interpreted in different ways by different people.

Definition of chastity added 11 Sep 2020.


Christian

A Christian is a person who is a follower of, identifies with and puts his or her trust in Jesus Christ. A de facto member of the body of Christ.

Definition of Christian added 11 Sep 2020.


Cis

Cis is an abbreviation or nickname for cisgender.

Definition of Cis added 07 Oct 2020.


Cisgender

Cisgender is when one’s gender identity matches one’s sex assigned at birth. The opposite of transgender.

Definition of cisgender added 11 Sep 2020.


Clobber Passages

The Clobber Passages usually refer to the six scriptures in the Bible which have most commonly been used to condemn same-sex relationships and behavior. These include Genesis 18, Leviticus 18:22, Leviticus 20:13, Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, and 1 Timothy 1:10. There are also clobber passages which have been used to condemn gender minorities: Genesis 1, Deuteronomy 22:5, Deuteronomy 23:1, and Matthew 19:1-12. For more information see “The Clobber Passages: A Closer Look.”

Definition of Clobber Passages added 11 Sep 2020.


Closeted

Definition of


Coming Out

Definition of


Compersion

Compersion means taking pleasure at your partner’s happiness. It is used by polyamorous persons to describe the happiness one feels at the success of another partner in the sexual realm or otherwise.

Definition of compersion added 08 Oct 2020.


Condom

Definition of


Consent

See also Enthusiastic consent.

Definition of


Consensual monogamy

See also Monogamy. For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of


Consensual non-monogamy (CNM)

For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of


Conservative (Christian)

Definition of


Contemplation

Definition of


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D

Terms beginning with D


DADT
Dating

Definition of


Desire

Definition of


Demiromantic

Definition of


Demisexual

Definition of


Discernment

Discernment refers to wise decision making, which for Christians often involves consulting Scripture. tradition and the Holy Spirit as well as checking in with our head, heart and gut. See also the Wesleyan Quadrilateral and Multiple Brain Integration.

Definition of Discernment added 24 Aug 2020.


Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell

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E

Terms beginning with E


Embodiment

Embodiment is a sense or an awareness of being a body, being in a body, or having a physical component which is integral to one’s being.

Definition of embodiment added 12 Oct 2020.


Enby

Enby is a nickname for “non-binary.” See Non-Binary.

Definition of enby added 11 Sep 2020.


Enthusiastic Consent

Enthusiastic consent is the principle that consent to sexual (and other related activity) between or among persons should be entered into only with the wholehearted and fully informed consent of all of the parties involved.

Definition of enthusiastic consent added 11 Sep 2020.


Eros

Eros is a desire or passion for life, especially the passionate love God has for humanity and Creation as evidenced by Christ’s incarnation and self sacrifice, and reflected in the human being as a passionate desire for God and the life God provides.

Definition of eros added 11 Sep 2020.


Erotic

Definition of


Erotica

Definition of


Erotophobia

Erotophobia is a fear of sexuality and pleasure.

Definition of erotophobia added 11 Sep 2020.


Ethic

An ethic is defined by Google dictionary thing as “a set of moral principles, especially ones relating to or affirming a specified group, field, or form of conduct.” A sexual ethic is an ethic applied to sexual behavior.

Definition of ethic added 11 Sep 2020.


Evangelical

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F

Terms beginning with F


Fetish

Definition of


Fluid

Fluid refers to a person whose sexual attraction or gender identity changes over time or depending on the situation.

Definition of fluid added 17 Sep 2020.


Fluid Bonding

Definition of fluid bonding added 14 Oct 2020.


Fuck

To fuck usually means to penetrate someone sexually. It can also refer to engaging in a sexual act with another person or persons.

Definition of fuck added 12 Sep 2020.


Fundamentalist

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G

Terms beginning with G


Gay

Although the term has also been used in the past to include any person attracted to the same gender (many women who are attracted to women use the label as well as lesbian), in this work, I use the term “gay” primarily to refer to male-identified persons who are emotionally, romantically or erotically attracted to other male-identified persons. Some gay men also identify primarily or additionally as queer.

Definition of gay added 11 Sep 2020.


Gender

Definition of

Gender added 11 Sep 2020.


Gender Dysphoria

Definition of

Gender Dysphoria added 11 Sep 2020.


Gender Expansive

Definition of

Gender Expansive added 11 Sep 2020.


Gender Expression

Definition of

Gender Expression added 11 Sep 2020.


Gender Fluid

Definition of

Gender Fluid added 11 Sep 2020.


Gender Identity

Definition of

Gender Identity added 11 Sep 2020.


Gender Non-conforming

Definition of

Gender Non-Conforming added 11 Sep 2020.


The Genderbread Person

The Genderbread Person is an illustration created by Sam Killermann and updated periodically over the years to begin a conversation about the ways gender, sex and identity do and do not interrelate. You can find the latest version at genderbread.org.

Definition of The Genderbread Person added 21 Oct 2020.


Genderfull

Genderfull is a concept, sometimes used to describe God, referring to containing all genders as opposed to being devoid of gender or limited to any particular number of genders.

Definition of Genderfull added 12 Sep 2020.


Genderqueer

Definition of


GGG

GGG is an acronym which stands for “Good, Giving and Game.”

Definition of GGG added 23 Aug 2020.


Good, Giving and Game (GGG)

“Good, Giving and Game” is a phrase coined by Dan Savage, suggesting that a lover should strive to be good in bed, giving of mutual pleasure, and game (up for anything within reason).

Definition of Good, Giving and Game added 23 Aug 2020.


Good Fruits/Bad Fruits Argument

The “good fruits/bad fruits” argument (referring to Jesus’ teachings in ) is central to Matthew Vines‘ argument that since traditional teachings prohibiting homosexuality produce adverse consequences, “bad fruit” in the real world, that they should be rejected.

Definition of Good Fruits/Bad Fruits Argument added 11 Sep 2020.


Greysexuality

Definition of greysexuality added 11 Sep 2020.


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H

Terms beginning with H


Heteroflexible

Definition of


Heteronormative

Definition of


Heterosexism

Definition of


Heterosexuality

Heterosexuality refers to one of four major sexual orientations, historically referred to as being attracted to the “opposite” gender (assuming male and female as the only gender options). See Sexual Orientation: a Closer Look.

Definition of heterosexuality added 14 Oct 2020.


HIV+

HIV+ stands for HIV-positive.

Definition of HIV+ added 08 Oct 2020.


HIV-

HIV- stands for HIV-negative.

Definition of HIV- added 08 Oct 2020.


HIV-negative

Definition of


HIV-positive

HIV-positive refers to the condition of having been infected with HIV, the virus which, untreated, can lead to AIDS. “HIV+” is the way it is often written.

Definition of HIV-positive added 11 Sep 2020.


Homoflexible

Definition of homoflexible .


Homophobia

Definition of


Homosexuality

Homosexuality refers to one of four major sexual orientations, historically referred to as being attracted to the same gender (assuming male and female as the only gender options). See Sexual Orientation: a Closer Look.

Definition of homosexuality added 14 Oct 2020.


Hookup

Definition of


Hookup Culture

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I

Terms beginning with I


Identity

Identity is one of the three components of sexual orientation in the AIB Model. See also Gender Identity.

Definition of Identity defined 13 Sep 2020.


Incarnation

Definition of


Incest

Definition of


Internalized homophobia

Definition of


Intersectionality

Definition of


Intersex

Intersex refers to persons whose sex traits or reproductive anatomy differences don’t fit medical or social norms for female or male bodies.

Definition of intersex added 18 Oct 2020.


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J

Terms beginning with J


Jerk Off

Definition of


Joy

Definition of


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K

Terms beginning with K


Kink

A kink is a sexual peculiarity. There are so many types of kinks that it would be unusual to find a person who does not have one. A person or a situation without kink is considered vanilla.

Definition of kink added 12 Sep 2020.


Kinsey Scale

The Kinsey Scale is an early model of sexual orientation which positions people on a continuum between complete homosexuality and complete heterosexuality. Kinsey acknowledged the phenomenon of asexuality, designating it not with a number but an “x.”

Definition of Kinsey Scale added 12 Sep 2020.


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L

Terms beginning with L


Leather (Community)

Definition of


Lesbian

A lesbian is a woman who is emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to other women. Some lesbians also or primarily refer to themselves as gay or queer.

Definition of lesbian added 11 Sep 2020.


LGBTQ

LGBTQ stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and/or Queer. See also LGBTQ+, LGBTQIA, and LGBTQIAA.

Definition of LGBTQ added 11 Sep 2020.


LGBTQ+

LGBTQ stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and/or Queer. plus the inclusion of other sexual or gender variants or minorities and, sometimes, allies. See also LGBTQIA and LGBTQIAA.

Definition of LGBTQ+ added 18 Oct 2020.


LGBTQIA

LGBTQIA stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual.

Definition of LGBTQIA added 18 Oct 2020.


LGBTQIAA

LGBTQIAA stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, Asexual and/or Ally.

Definition of LGBTQIAA added 18 Oct 2020.


Limerance

Definition of


The Line (as in Crossing the…)

The mythical “line” is that demarcation between

Definition of The Line added 11 Sep 2020.


Living openly

Definition of


Love

Definition of


Lust

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M

Terms beginning with M


Making Love

Definition of


Masculinity

See also Toxic Masculinity.

Definition of


Masturbation

Masturbation is giving oneself or another pleasure, especially by manual stimulation of the genitals. We will tend to use the phrase “self-pleasuring” to avoid ambiguity.

Definition of masturbation added 11 Sep 2020.


Mixed-Orientation Marriage

A mixed-orientation marriage is a marriage where one partner is lesbian, gay or otherwise same-sex attracted and the other partner is straight or heterosexual.

Definition of Mixed-Orientation Marriage added 11 Sep 2020.


Monogamish

Monogamish refers to being in a relationship that is basically monogamous but with a few exceptions such as the ability to have sex together with a third partner or the ability to have sex with other people while apart for some period of time. For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of monogamish added 15 Nov 2020.


Monogamy

Monogamy refers to a relationship in which there is a presumption or agreement that there will be no sexual or romantic involvement with anyone other than one’s partner(s). See also Consensual Monogamy, Monogamish and Serial Monogamy. For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of monogamy added 15 Sep 2020.


Monosexual

Monosexual refers to a person who is sexually attracted to one gender as opposed to bisexual or pansexual which refer to being attracted to more than one gender.

Definition of monosexual added 11 Nov 2020. Kevin Garcia used this term in an Instagram post dated 11 Nov 2020.


Morals/Morality

Definition of


MSM

MSM stands for “men who have sex with men.” This term is used by HIV-prevention advocates to indicate men who engage in same-sex behavior but may or may not identify as gay, bi, or queer.

Definition of MSM added 07 Oct 2020.


Multiple Brain Integration

Definition of


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N

Terms beginning with N


Non-binary

Definition of


Non-Monogamy

See also Consensual non-monogamy (CNM). For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of


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O

Terms beginning with O


Omnisexual

Omnisexual . See Sexual Orientation: a Closer Look.

Definition of


One-Night Stand

Definition of


Open

See Living openly.

Definition of


Open relationship

For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of


Original Blessing

Definition of


Original Sin

Definition of


Out (of the closet)

Definition of


Outing

Definition of


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P

Terms beginning with P


Pan

Pan is an abbreviation or nickname for Pansexual.

Definition of pan added 15 Oct 2020.


Pansexual

Pansexual is an identity marker referring to being attracted to more than one gender or all genders. See Sexual Orientation: a Closer Look.

Definition of pansexual added 16 Sep 2020.


Patriarchy

Definition of


Pentecostal

Definition of


PEP

Post-Exposure Prophylaxis.

Definition of


Platonic Love

Platonic love refers to a love relationship that does not have or avoids a sexual component. A better term would have been “Socratic love” (Plato wasn’t necessarily anti-sex) but it’s been several thousand years and that ship has sailed.

Definition of Platonic love added 15 Oct 2020.


Play

Definition of


Pleasure

Definition of


Poly

Poly is an abbreviation or nickname for polyamorous. See also polyamory.

Definition of poly added 08 Oct 2020.


Polyamorous

a polyamorous person has the capacity or desire to love more than one person at the same time. A polyamorous relationship is a loving relationship among more than two people or a relationship that has the capacity for such. For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of polyamorous added 08 Oct 2020.


Polyamory

Polyamory is the capacity to love more than one other person at the same time or the state of actually loving more than one other person at the same time. For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of polyamory added 11 Sep 2020.


Polycule

For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of


Polyfidelity

For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of


Porn/Pornography

Definition of


PrEP

Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis.

Definition of


Progressive (Christian)

Definition of


Promiscuity

Definition of


Pronouns

Definition of


Prostitute/Prostitution

See Sex work/Sex worker.

Definition of


Purity

See Sexual purity.

Definition of


Purity culture

Definition of


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Q

Terms beginning with Q


Queer

Queer, formerly a slur which has been reclaimed as identity marker by many non-heterosexual (and some heterosexual) persons who identify as not-straight, is often used as a blanket term to include sexual and gender minorities.

Definition of Queer added 11 Sep 2020.


Questioning

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R

Terms beginning with R


Relationship

A relationship is any interaction between or among people, although the term is usually used to refer to an ongoing romantic or sexual interaction between or among persons.

Definition of relationship added 15 Nov 2020.


Relationship Model

A relationships model is a way of organizing or conceiving of a relationship such as monogamous, polyamorous, open, or exclusive.

Definition of relationship model added 15 Nov 2020.


Risky Sex

Definition of


Romantic Attraction

Romantic attraction refers to an interest in or desire for romantic interaction with another person.

Definition of romantic attraction added 18 Oct 2020. Source: aromanticism.org/en/attraction-relationship-terms, accessed 18 Oct 2020 (13:41).


Romantic Orientation

Romantic orientation refers to a person’s usual pattern of romantic attraction.

Definition of romantic attraction added 18 Oct 2020. Source: aromanticism.org/en/basic-terms, accessed 18 Oct 2020 (13:41).


Rule

See also boundary.

Definition of rule added .


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S

Terms beginning with S


Same Gender Loving (SGL)

Same Gender Loving (SGL) refers to people of one gender who are attracted to persons of the same gender, not necessarily exclusively. This is a term one often encounters among discussions of persons of color.

Definition of Same Gender Loving (SGL) added 11 Sep 2020.


Same Sex Attracted (SSA)

Same Sex Attracted (SSA) refers to men who are attracted to men and women who are attracted to women, not necessarily exclusively.

Definition of Same Sex Attracted (SSA) added 11 Sep 2020.


Self-Pleasuring

Self-Pleasuring is a phrase used to describe masturbation with the added benefit of specifying solo or self-oriented behavior and recognizing that sexual pleasure exists on a continuum with other types of bodily pleasure and stimulation.

Definition of self-pleasuring added 19 Oct 2020.


Sensuality

Definition of


Serial Monogamy

Serial monogamy refers to participating in a series of relationships, one after the other, with each relationship holding to the presumption of monogamy. See also Monogamy.

Definition of serial monogamy added 15 Sep 2020.


Serosorting

Definition of


Sex

Sex has a variety of meanings. In scientific terms, “Sex” is used to describe the reproductive organs, genetic and hormonal makeup and secondary sexual characteristics which medical and scientific professionals use to determine whether a person is male, female, intersex or neither (see Sex Assignment). In popular terms, “sex” can describe any of a wide variety of sexual activities while others consider sex to be penetrative intercourse, primarily involving a penis in a vagina or anus. At Sex and the Gay Christian, we will almost exclusively tend to use the word “sex” by itself to refer to sexual activity, broadly defined.

Definition of sex added 11 Sep 2020.


Sex Assignment

Sex assignment is the determination of the sex of an infant by examining the genitals or chromosomes at or before birth. The sometimes-problematic terms “AFAB” (assigned female at birth) and “AMAB” (assigned male at birth) refer to this practice. See also AFAB, AMAB and Intersex.

Definition of sex assignment added 07 Oct 2020.


Sex Negative

Sex negative refers to an attitude that sexuality is fundamentally dangerous and bad and must be avoided or strictly controlled.

Definition of sex negative added 15 Oct 2020.


Sex Positive

Sex positive refers to an attitude that sexuality is fundamentally good, even though (as any human endeavor) it can sometimes be misused or misunderstood for unhealthy or even evil means.

Definition of sex positive added 15 Oct 2020.


Sex Work/Sex Worker

Often referred to as “prostitution,” sex work is providing sexual services in exchange for goods, usually money or gifts. I use the term “sex work” and “sex worker” because the many connotations of “prostitution” obscure the wide range of experiences and lived reality of many of the persons involved in providing these services to others.

Definition of sex work/sex worker added 11 Sep 2020.


Sexual

Definition of sexual added 15 Nov 2020.


Sexual Activity

See sexual behavior.

Definition of sexual activity added 15 Nov 2020.


Sexual Attraction

Sexual attraction refers to an interest in or desire for sexual interaction with another person.

Definition of sexual attraction added 18 Oct 2020. Source: aromanticism.org/en/attraction-relationship-terms, accessed 18 Oct 2020.


Sexual Behavior

Sexual behavior is one of the three components of sexual orientation in the AIB Model.

Definition of sexual behavior added 11 Sep 2020.


Sexual Ethic(s)

See also Ethic.

Definition of


Sexual Integrity

Definition of sexual integrity added 14 Oct 2020.


Sexual Orientation

Sexual orientation is “an often enduring pattern of emotional, romantic and/or sexual attractions of men to women or women to men (heterosexual), of women to women or men to men (homosexual), or by men or women to both sexes (bisexual). It also refers to an individual’s sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, related behaviors and membership in a community of others who share those attractions and behaviors.” —from the American Psychological Association (LGBT Topics) website (28 Mar 2015). See Sexual Orientation: a Closer Look.

Definition of Sexual Orientation added 11 Sep 2020.


Sexual Preference

Sexual preference is a phrase, often erroneously used in place of sexual orientation, which implies that same-sex attraction (and, by extension opposite-sex attraction) result on some level from conscious choice or a lack or presence of willpower. See instead Sexual Orientation.

Definition of sexual preference added 13 Sep 2020.


Sexual Purity

Sexual purity is a concept usually equated with abstinence outside of heterosexual marriage and monogamy within heterosexual marriage.

Definition of sexual purity added 11 Sep 2020.


Sexual Racism

Sexual racism has been defined by writer Alexander Leon as “an individual’s inclination towards having sex with or dating someone based on that person’s perceived racial identity.”

Definition of sexual racism added 16 Oct 2020. Source: instagram.com/p/CCEYrQIFXGd, published 30 Jun 2020, accessed 16 Oct 2020 (13:20).


Sexual Shame

Definition of


Sexuality

Definition of


Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI)

Definition of


SGL

See Same Gender Loving.

Definition of SGL added 15 Nov 2020.


Side

Side refers to a person who neither identifies in their sexual practice with being a top (an insertive partner in sex) nor a bottom (a receptive partner in sex). Side can also refer to a person who does not like anal sex. See also versatile.

Definition of side added 12 Sep 2020.


Side A Christians

See also Side B Christians.

Definition of


Side B Christians

See also Side A Christians.

Definition of


Skin Hunger

Skin hunger is a desire to touch or be touched either in a sexual or non-sexual way.

Definition of skin hunger added 12 Sep 2020.


Social Location

Definition of


Solo Sex

Solo Sex is sexual or erotic behavior performed alone or with a focus on oneself. It can include masturbation and self-pleasuring.

Definition of solo sex added 19 Oct 2020.


Spiritual Formation

Definition of


Spiritual Practice

Definition of


Spirituality

Definition of


SSA

See Same Sex Attracted.

Definition of SSA added 15 Nov 2020.


STI

See Sexually transmitted infection.

Definition of STI added 15 Nov 2020.


Straight

Definition of straight added .


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T

Terms beginning with T


Thanatos

As opposed to Eros, thanatos is the desire for death rather than life.

Definition of Thanatos added 11 Sep 2020.


Threesome

A threesome is sex among three people at the same time.

Definition of threesome added 11 Sep 2020.


Throuple

A throuple refers to a relationship involving three people the way a couple involves two people. For more information, see “Non-Monogamy and Polyamory: A Closer Look.”

Definition of throuple added 11 Sep 2020.


Top

A top is a person who identifies with the role of being the insertive, penetrative partner in (especially anal) sex. The term top can be used as a verb meaning to assume the role of top in a sexual encounter. See also side and versatile.

Definition of top definition added 11 Sep 2020.


Toxic Masculinity

One of the best definitions of toxic masculinity I’ve found comes from Harris O’Malley (O’Malley, 2016). He writes: “Toxic masculinity is a narrow and repressive description of manhood, designating manhood as defined by violence, sex, status and aggression. It’s the cultural ideal of manliness, where strength is everything while emotions are a weakness; where sex and brutality are yardsticks by which men are measured, while supposedly ‘feminine’ traits – which can range from emotional vulnerability to simply not being hypersexual – are the means by which your status as ‘man’ can be taken away.”

Definition of toxic masculinity added 28 Sep 2020.


Trans

Trans is a nickname or abbreviation for “transgender.” See also Trans* (with an asterisk) and Transgender.

Definition of trans added 12 Sep 2020.


Trans*

Trans* (with an asterisk) refers to the use of the word “trans” as an umbrella phrase to describe persons of a variety of identities who are not cisgender men or women.

Definition of trans* added 21 Oct 2020. Source: Killerman, Sam. “What Does the Asterisk in Trans* Stand For?” It’s Pronounced Metrosexual. itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2012/05/what-does-the-asterisk-in-trans-stand-for/, accessed 21 Oct 2020 (10:20).


Trans Man

Trans Man refers to someone who identifies as trans and whose gender identity is male.

Definition of trans man added 17 Oct 2020.


Trans Woman

Trans Woman refers to someone who identifies as trans and whose gender identity is female.

Definition of trans woman added 12 Sep 2020.


Transgender

Transgender refers to when one’s gender identity does not match one’s sex assigned at birth. The opposite of cisgender.

Definition of transgender added 11 Sep 2020.


Transphobia

Definition of transphobia added 11 Sep 2020.


Trauma

Definition of trauma added 11 Sep 2020.


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U

Terms beginning with U


U=U

U=U stands for the phrase “undetectable equals untransmittable.” It refers to the fact, established over the last decade, that HIV-positive persons with an undetectable viral load cannot transmit HIV to uninfected partners.

Definition of U=U added 11 Sep 2020.


Undetectable

Definition of


Unicorn

See Urban Dictionary.

Definition of


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V

Terms beginning with V


Vanilla

Vanilla refers to having a sexual style free of any kinks, or sexual peculiarities. Sometimes people refer to themselves as “vanilla” even though they have a kink that they do not consider or think of as a kink.

Definition of vanilla added 11 Sep 2020.


Versatile

A versatile person refers sexually to a person who is open to playing either the top role (the insertive partner in anal intercourse) or the bottom role (the receptive partner in anal intercourse) depending upon the situation. See also side.

Definition of versatile defined 11 Sep 2020.


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W

Terms beginning with W


Wesleyan Quadrilateral

The Wesleyan Quadrilateral is a theological approach that deals with the question of authority. Drawn from the writings of John Wesley, the theory holds that one can make theological decisions on the basis of four sources: scripture, tradition, reason and experience. This idea is derivative of the Anglican three-legged stool of scripture, tradition and reason (where reason is inclusive of experience) but I feel it is more useful to consider experience as a major source of authority in its own right.

Definition of Wesleyan Quadrilateral added 11 Sep 2020.


What Are You Into?

These are the four magic words of gay sexual experience.

Definition of What Are You Into? added 11 Sep 2020.


WSW

WSW stands for “women who have sex with women.” This term is used by HIV-prevention advocates to indicate women who engage in same-sex behavior but may or may not identify as lesbian, gay, bi, or queer.

Definition of WSW added 07 Oct 2020.


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Further Glossary & Vocabulary Resources

GLAAD Media Reference Guide – Lesbian / Gay / Bisexual Glossary Of Terms

Find it at glaad.org/reference/lgbtq.


GLAAD Media Reference Guide – Transgender

Find it at glaad.org/reference/transgender.


Human Rights Campaign (HRC) Glossary of Terms

The HRC website has a useful short glossary of terms. Find it at hrc.org/resources/glossary-of-terms.


It’s Pronounced Metrosexual

It’s Pronounced Metrosexual (IPM), written, illustrated and produced by Sam Killermann is an online resource to promote social justice, gender, and sexuality. The site clarifies terms and concepts with incredibly useful infographics which are free to use and distribute by anybody. Visit IPM at itspronouncedmetrosexual.com.


Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender topics page of the American Psychological Association (APA)

The American Psychological Association has a Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender topics page that defines many terms related to sexual orientation and gender identity. Find it at apa.org/topics/lgbt/index.html.


Planned Parenthood: Glossary of Sexual Health Terms

The Planned Parenthood Glossary has a wealth of terms about sexuality and sexual health at plannedparenthood.org/learn/glossary.


Scarleteen

The Scarleteen website has a huge glossary of terms at scarleteen.com/glossary.


World Health Organizations: Sexual and Reproductive Health: Gender and Human Rights

The World Health Organization has a list of working definitions which give comprehensive definitions for terms such as “sex,” “sexuality,” “sexual health” and “sexual rights” at who.int/reproductivehealth/topics/gender_rights/sexual_health/en/.


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Sources

The following are sources consulted in the construction of this glossary.

“Attraction and Relationship Terms.” AUREA (Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy). aromanticism.org/en/attraction-relationship-terms, accessed 18 Oct 2020 (13:47).

“Basic Aromantic Terms.” AUREA (Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy). aromanticism.org/en/basic-terms, accessed 18 Oct 2020.

“Identity Terms.” AUREA (Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy). aromanticism.org/en/identity-terms, accessed 18 Oct 2020 (13:47).

Killerman, Sam. “What Does the Asterisk in Trans* Stand For?” It’s Pronounced Metrosexual. itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2012/05/what-does-the-asterisk-in-trans-stand-for/, accessed 21 Oct 2020 (10:20).


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