Recommendations

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I’ve encountered a large number of resources over the course of this project, yet I feel I’ve only seen a fraction of what is being produced. Not everything I encountered was of equal merit, so I offer, below a list of resources I recommend to you for your further study and reflection.

And click here for an annotated list of resources I don’t recommend.


Recommended Books

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Beeching, Vicky. Undivided: Coming Out, Becoming Whole, and Living Free from Shame (paid link). HarperOne (Reprint Edition), 20 Aug 2019.

We haven’t read this book, but it comes recommended by credible sources.


Farley, Margaret A. Just Love: A Framework for Christian Sexual Ethics (paid link). Continuum (First Paperback Edition), 15 Apr 2008.

Margaret Farley’s Just Love is a must-read for individuals and communities seeking to think clearly and critically about the constructing of a sexual ethic. Although it affirms the legitimacy of same-sex relationships, her conclusions tend to funnel relationships into a heteronormative model. Nevertheless, this stands as an excellent resource in that it takes a serious but critical look at scripture, tradition, modern science and contemporary experience, all necessary to discern well within our Christian traditions in the present day.

Just Love by Margaret A. Farley added with commentary 17 Oct 2020.


Hardy, Janet W. & Dossie Easton. The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love. (paid link) Ten Speed Press, Revised ed. August 15, 2017.


Hartke, Austen. Transforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians (paid link). Westminster John Knox Press, 10 April 2018.

We haven’t read this book, but it comes recommended by credible sources.


Lee, Justin. Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate (paid link). Jericho Books (reprint edition), 14 May 2013.

We haven’t read this book, but it comes highly recommended by credible sources and appears on just about every list of Queer-affirming religious writing. Furthermore, Justin Lee is a gifted advocate for the LGBTQ community.


Martin, Colby. UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality (paid link). Westminster John Knox, 03 Oct 2016.

We’d urge you to rush out and buy UnClobber right away, but I understand that a new version may be published in 2021 with more material and study guides.


Orenstein, Peggy. Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity (paid link). HarperCollins, 2020.


Roberts, Matthias. Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (paid link). Fortress, 2020.


Robertson, Brandan J. The Gospel of Inclusion: A Christian Case for LGBT+ Inclusion in the Church (paid link). Cascade Books, 2019.


Robinson, V. Gene. God Believes in Love: Straight Talk About Gay Marriage (paid link). Vintage, 04 Jun 2013.

We haven’t read this book, but it comes recommended by credible sources.


Ryan, Christopher & Cacilda Jethá. Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships (paid link). Harper Collins, Reprint Ed. July 5, 2011.


Scott, Emily MD. For All Who Hunger: Searching for Communion in a Shattered World (paid link). Convergent Books, (1st Edition), 12 May 2020.

We haven’t read this book, but it comes recommended by credible sources.


Sellers, Tina Schermer. Sex, God & the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy (paid link). Routledge, 2017.


Vines, Matthew. God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case for Same-Sex Relationships. (paid link). Convergent, 2014.


Recommended Articles

Corinna, Heather. “Sexuality: WTF Is It, Anyway?” Scarleteen, 21 Dec 2011 (updated 24 Jun 2019). scarleteen.com/article/bodies/sexuality_wtf_is_it_anyway accessed 10 Sep 2020 (14:57).


Recommended Talks

Vines, Matthew. “The Gay Debate: The Bible and Homosexuality.” Matthew Vines, 12 March 2012. youtube.com/watch?v=ezQjNJUSraY, accessed 01 Sep 2020 (10:06).

Vines rocked the Evangelical and Queer worlds in 2012 with his groundbreaking hour long talk “The Gay Debate: The Bible and Homosexuality” and his subsequent book, God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case in Support of Same-Sex Relationships (paid link) (Convergent, 2014). As far as I can discern, Vines is the originator of the “good fruits/bad fruits” argument against traditional prohibitions against homosexuality and the subsequent notion that contradicting scriptural dictates that it is not good for the man to be alone (Genesis 2:18) produces bad fruit. Vines maintains that the Biblical writers were ignorant of modern gay, committed, loving relationships.


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