Thoughts & Reflections

A Gay Christian Looks at the “Love Ethic” of Walter Wink

A Gay Christian Looks at the “Love Ethic” of Walter Wink While looking for a good definition for “sexual ethics,” I kept coming across Walter Wink and his 1986 essay, “Homosexuality and the Bible.”¹ In this essay, Wink uses the phrase, “love ethic,” and contrasts it with the notion of a “biblical” sexual ethic. In short, this love ethic which Wink proposes finds its source in the teachings of Jesus, through whom Wink insists the entire Scriptural tradition must be interpreted.

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02 Jan 2022

The Journey This Week :: 02 Jan 2022 News & Updates at Sex & the Gay Christian26 December 2021—01 January 2022 Happy 2022! Hi! This is Jon, your host at Sex & the Gay Christian. Looks like we made it through another tough year. I pray this new year finds you and those you love in good physical, mental, and spiritual health. (If not, I pray the Lord be with you in your struggles and urge you to reach out for help.) If you’ve visited before this week, you’ll notice a number of significant changes. The most notable is…

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Finding Our Way Towards a “Centered Set” Sexual Ethics with Wendy VanderWal Gritter

At the Q Christian Fellowship annual conference in early January 2021 (which was totally online), I attended a breakout session entitled “Finding Our Way: Centered Set Sexual Ethics.” I was excited about the session for two reasons. The entire reason the Sex and the Gay Christian project launched was to help Queer, Christian men (myself included) develop a personal, healthy, sex-positive, sexual ethic centered on Christ. Also, I have found the thoughts of the presenter, Wendy VanderWal-Gritter, on Christian sexual ethics to be not only clear, but liberating and grounding at the same time.

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Queer Ally Colby Martin Catches Fire… in a Good Way

This week, on Tuesday, 13 October 2020, writer, pastor, and Queer ally Colby Martin started a firestorm with a post-National Coming Out Day Instagram post (embedded in full below) which reaffirmed his position that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality. Sure, the trolls came out, but it ended in a well-deserved love fest.

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Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts: A Review

I first reviewed Beyond Shame: Creating A Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts, on Goodreads 05 January 2020. As I prepare to reread this book specifically for the Sex and the Gay Christian project, I repost that review in its entirety, below.

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Hi! I’m Jon Carl, your host at Sex & the Gay Christian. I’m a gay, Christian man who has been with the same wonderful husband for over 26 years. I’m a certified spiritual director, and I’m writing a book on sexual decision-making and sexual ethics for Queer Christians seeking to live an integrated sexual and spiritual life.

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