Thoughts & Reflections
A Very Queer Christian Saint: Aelred of Rieveaulx
Today, 12 January, is the feast day of a very queer saint, Aelred of Rieveaulx. Claimed by many queer Christians as a patron saint, he was a wildly popular abbot (head of a monastery) in England where he wrote about the benefits of spiritual friendship, primarily among men. I sometimes question his appropriateness as a queer saint because of his habit of dunking himself in ice water to overcome his passions for the men with whom he had or wanted to have a particular friendship. Nevertheless, I recommend his works Spiritual Friendship and The Mirror of Charity (The Mirror of…Read more
A Queer Christian Looks at Sex Positivity
Sex positivity is an ill-defined and much maligned concept, especially in Christian circles. But it doesn’t have to be this way. This article presents an invitation to consider six principles for what a sex positive Christianity might look like.Read more
News & Updates :: 01 Jan 2023
Thoughts on living into the freedom and abundance of life in Christ as faithful queer Christians in 2023.Read more
Thoughts on the Passing of 2022
Thoughts on the state of the queer Christian world at the dawn of 2023.Read more
“Side A,” “Side B,” & the Need for a More Robust Sexual Ethic
I recently listened to a podcast titled “Two Views on Sexual Ethics with Dave Kuta & Jon Morgan.” The conversation was hosted on Devoted for Ministry Leaders, the podcast of LOVEboldly, an organization which “exists to empower Christians (straight, cisgender, and LGBTQIA+) to create more spaces where LGBTQIA+ people can flourish in the church.” Since LOVEboldly is committed to bringing together a diverse range of voices, “Rather than promoting a certain theological viewpoint” as their website states, they were careful to inform the listener that the program would reflect the “varying viewpoints” included in the organization about topics such as same-sex…Read more
A Gay Christian Looks at the “Love Ethic” of Walter Wink
Theologian Walter Wink argues that there is no Biblical sexual ethic, but Christians are to be bound by a “love ethic” as modeled by Jesus.Read more
A Gay Christian Looks at Sex
Sex & the Gay Christian is a sex-positive initiative to help Queer Christians embrace their sexuality, make sexual and relational decisions that fit their Christian values, and integrate their sexual and spiritual lives.Read more
An Invitation to a Journey
An invitation to a spiritual journey in community towards a healthy, ethical, Queer Christian sexuality.Read more
Finding Our Way Towards a “Centered Set” Sexual Ethics with Wendy VanderWal Gritter
At the Q Christian Fellowship annual conference in early January 2021 (which was totally online), I attended a breakout session entitled “Finding Our Way: Centered Set Sexual Ethics.” I was excited about the session for two reasons. The entire reason the Sex and the Gay Christian project launched was to help Queer, Christian men (myself included) develop a personal, healthy, sex-positive, sexual ethic centered on Christ. Also, I have found the thoughts of the presenter, Wendy VanderWal-Gritter, on Christian sexual ethics to be not only clear, but liberating and grounding at the same time.Read more
Queer Ally Colby Martin Catches Fire… in a Good Way
This week, on Tuesday, 13 October 2020, writer, pastor, and Queer ally Colby Martin started a firestorm with a post-National Coming Out Day Instagram post (embedded in full below) which reaffirmed his position that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality. Sure, the trolls came out, but it ended in a well-deserved love fest.Read more
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Hi! I’m Jon Carl, your host at Sex & the Gay Christian. I’m a gay, Christian man who has been with the same wonderful husband for over 26 years. I’m a certified spiritual director, and I’m writing a book on sexual decision-making and sexual ethics for Queer Christians seeking to live an integrated sexual and spiritual life.
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