Thoughts & Reflections

But What About SEX? A New Direction for Sex & the Gay Christian

I’m still in shock, so I’m not sure I need to be writing this right now. Not only am I mourning the demise and potential destruction of Twitter, but also the book proposal I submitted to write Sex & the Gay Christian, a guide to sexual integrity for queer Christians, has been rejected by the first major publisher to show initial interest in it. On the bright side, the editorial folks loved the content enough to take it to the folks in marketing. Unfortunately, the marketing department felt that queer, progressive Christians were too narrow a market for them to…

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“Side A,” “Side B,” & the Need for a More Robust Sexual Ethic

I recently listened to a podcast titled “Two Views on Sexual Ethics with Dave Kuta & Jon Morgan.” The conversation was hosted on Devoted for Ministry Leaders, the podcast of LOVEboldly, an organization which “exists to empower Christians (straight, cisgender, and LGBTQIA+) to create more spaces where LGBTQIA+ people can flourish in the church.” Since LOVEboldly is committed to bringing together a diverse range of voices, “Rather than promoting a certain theological viewpoint” as their website states, they were careful to inform the listener that the program would reflect the “varying viewpoints” included in the organization about topics such as same-sex…

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Finding Our Way Towards a “Centered Set” Sexual Ethics with Wendy VanderWal Gritter

At the Q Christian Fellowship annual conference in early January 2021 (which was totally online), I attended a breakout session entitled “Finding Our Way: Centered Set Sexual Ethics.” I was excited about the session for two reasons. The entire reason the Sex and the Gay Christian project launched was to help Queer, Christian men (myself included) develop a personal, healthy, sex-positive, sexual ethic centered on Christ. Also, I have found the thoughts of the presenter, Wendy VanderWal-Gritter, on Christian sexual ethics to be not only clear, but liberating and grounding at the same time.

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Queer Ally Colby Martin Catches Fire… in a Good Way

This week, on Tuesday, 13 October 2020, writer, pastor, and Queer ally Colby Martin started a firestorm with a post-National Coming Out Day Instagram post (embedded in full below) which reaffirmed his position that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality. Sure, the trolls came out, but it ended in a well-deserved love fest.

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Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts: A Review

I first reviewed Beyond Shame: Creating A Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts, on Goodreads 05 January 2020. As I prepare to reread this book specifically for the Sex and the Gay Christian project, I repost that review in its entirety, below.

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Hi! I’m Jon Carl, your host at Sex & the Gay Christian. I’m a gay, Christian man who has been with the same wonderful husband for over 26 years. I’m a certified spiritual director, and I’m writing a book on sexual decision-making and sexual ethics for Queer Christians seeking to live an integrated sexual and spiritual life.

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